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The Wedding Crashers

The Wedding Crashers


An open letter to all of you that have received an invitation to attend a wedding:

Dear Friends:

I’ve been in this business a while and I have to say, from my experience, most weddings  go pretty well. If there are issues it’s often with the guests. I know you want to avoid etiquette faux pas so let me share some tips that will help you be The Best Wedding Guest Ever.

1. Read the invitation!!!! (You’d be amazed how many people don’t do this.) The invitation is a treasure trove of useful information. The invitation suite should tell you the wedding date, the location, the time the ceremony starts, the dress code, if a reception follows, etc.

2. RSVP by the requested date. If you don’t do this it is perfectly acceptable for the bride and groom to hunt you down.

3. Dress appropriately. Not sure you understand dress codes? Click here.

4. Be on time. Actually, no. Be early. The time stated on the invitation is the ceremony start time. It is NOT the guest arrival time. Allow for traffic, weather, getting lost, parking hassles, alien abduction, whatever, but do not arrive late for the wedding ceremony. Tacky. Tacky. Tacky.

5. Keep the cellphone and/or camera tucked away during the ceremony, unless the guests are specifically invited to use them.

6. Do not ask if you can bring a date. If your invitation doesn’t specifically ask you to invite a plus-one do not bring one. Every couple has a budget and the costs of plus-ones can really add up.

7. Do not ask if you can bring your child. Many couples, for a variety of excellent reasons, do not want young children at their wedding. Do not assume that your precious bambino is the exception to the No Children rule.

8. Ladies, do not wear white. There is no debate on this. It has been the rule since forever and it continues to be so. You can wear white when you’re the bride, but not on your friend’s wedding day. Gentlemen, remove your hat while indoors.

9. Eat, drink, and be merry, but do not gorge, get wasted and cry. (Guys, this also applies to you.)

10. Before you leave make a point of expressing your thanks and happy wishes to the bride and groom and their parents, and let them know what a wonderful time you had.

Remember, this is a wedding, not karaoke night at Philthy McNasty’s. It is an honour to be invited to celebrate your friends’ happy day. Follow these simple guidelines and rise to the occasion because, really, do you want to be that guest?


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