What City & Colour Taught Me About Weddings

City&Colour @ Molson Amphitheatre

City&Colour @ Molson Amphitheatre


Late last summer a group of us attended a City & Colour  (aka Dallas Green) concert at the Molson Amphitheatre. We sat on the hill, surrounded by people thoroughly enjoying the music and the warm summer evening. Before launching into his song Body in a Box Dallas invited everyone to hold up their digital devices and snap a photo. Then he said something very surprising. He asked everyone to put away those devices and enjoy the song. In other words, he asked us to avoid technological distraction and simply enjoy the communal experience of listening to his music.

It was a powerful moment and it got me thinking about how social media has invaded weddings.

Technology allows us to document all the moments of our lives and share with the world. (Whether or not the world gives a hoot is another matter.)

But a wedding is not just another social outing. It is a deeply personal, sometimes sacred, union where two people stand up before family and friends to declare their love for each other and their commitment to live their lives together.

Let’s face it. Most of us don’t have to get married. Women no longer marry for the traditional reasons. We don’t need a husband to provide us with income, children or validation. Men don’t marry because they need our dowries, our cooking and housekeeping skills or someone to bear their offspring.

(We could debate those final points, but that’s a discussion for another day.)

Yet people still get married, and when they do, they usually choose to share that special moment with their loved ones.

It is a huge honour to be invited to witness and experience a couple’s wedding vows and celebration. Let’s keep this in mind next time, as we reach for the cell phone or camera. Ironically when we put away those devices we believe are enhancing our experience, that’s when we can truly focus on and fully appreciate the love and commitment we’ve been asked to share.

When Dallas Green asked all of us to put away our tech toys, we did. And we all enjoyed a richer experience as a result.


By the way, Dallas’ new album, the Hurry and the Harm, is terrific. You can buy it here.





2 Responses to “What City & Colour Taught Me About Weddings”

  1. Andreas, Photographer Says:

    As a photographer who has been photographing weddings for the past ten years, I’d like to say that while visual communications via twitter/instagram/facebook on our iphones and ipads is great, and has it’s place, a wedding ceremony is NO place for such tech. The very notion that we can’t sit there for 15-30 minutes, without the distraction of needing to photograph, tweet, and update our “friends” through these the phones is quite disturbing. I recently photographed a wedding where the mother of the bride was at the front row of the church, with her iPad in hand, making a video of the ceremony…even though there was a professional videographer there as well. More and more people need to start telling their guests to turn OFF the toys and pay attention, on a human level, for a few minutes…that’s why they were invited!

  2. Christine March Says:

    I agree Andreas. I sense a social media/digital device backlash coming for weddings.

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